Politics and Self Care 

Today’s speech by the man at the white house has literally made my head hurt, I feel like… I don’t know what I feel anymore. Disgust. This is just plain crazy. 

Sitting and watching him on tv giving his rant OMG. What did I just watch? He blamed the anti-racism protesters. Not the aggressors over the weekend.

Yes, racism has always existed in America. Yes we know that but he just basically gave the green light to those people who hate everyone else to keep the hate going.

Statues has nothing to do with it now!

Everyone tried to tell people this how it would play out, hell other countries warned also……Including this woman 

has said from day one things would get awful day by day.

No one listened and now this is where we are now.

So this is where Self Care is needed for everyone.

Self-care is imperative in maintaining a healthy mental space for yourself

Escape with a book. Take a break from news, news podcasts, social media and I love me some twitter but sometimes I delete the app so I won’t be tempted when I’m taking a break, and grab me a good book or invest in a few new ones.

Get some fresh air. Go for a walk, a run, or eat your lunch in outside and really appreciate the beauty of your surroundings.Take yourself out to a fabulous meal, alone. This can be dreadfully frightening but you will really begin to appreciate the food, your time, and your relationship with yourself much more.

Create a playlist of music that makes you smile, dance, or sing.

Add something healthy to your routine each day. Nurture Your Body. Treat yourself to that massage, facial, or scalp massage on your next hair appointment and let someone take care of you for a little while, you deserve it.

Activate Your Inner Child.

Something I do in a heartbeat, pull a cartoon or animated movie and just get lost.

Do what makes your inner child smile!!!

Silence the phone, tablets. Indulge in the moment and forget about the incoming call, text or email for as long as you can, turn off the breaking news alerts.

Laugh, draw, paint, build, cook, do something that activates your creative side. Having trouble? Get online and use Pintrest as inspiration.

Use the Nice Towels. Or the good china or bath salts whatever you have been “saving” for a special occasion. You are special and right now is the occasion to celebrate!!!!

Self care is not selfish in 2017 it is a must.

Mood Affected

The image below is how my Friday started, finally all four of us ladies had clear schedules to link up and hang out! Had a blast and much needed girl time because we all have hectic schedules so we have the most fun each time like it is our last.

I was not on social media at all Friday so I had no clue what was going on Friday night in Virginia, so when I decided to get on social media had me like WHOA, I watched yesterday how things were very bad in Virginia and instantly put me in a mood

As a person of color, yes I am angry and honestly fed up. I have to explain to my kids each time to always stay alert because you never know what will happen especially after seeing what happened on yesterday.

I was just not feeling the images online and on tv. I finally had to disconnect from everything and just some jazz on, hubby and I chilled for the rest of the evening.

Not to mention this week has been extremely rough, things have gotten in the way of  my self care, for some reason everyone wanted to try Char this week with useless opinions. I have not felt like blogging words of encouragement this week because this week I needed it. I let me self care dwindle.

Few days this week I have just pretty much been lazy after work and letting people fall on their on swords without me giving a care because you cant keep helping people who don’t want to be helped it will drain your soul. I have been binge watching some of my old favorite shows shows just doing nothing my biggest supporter has just fed me and watched shows with me when he came  in from work and it felt nice to shut the world out. 

My text messages were not answered if it was not him or kids everyone else could figure things out on their own.

It is time be honest with ourselves, everyone gets tired and want to be left alone mood every now and then, and this week I was level 20 of leave me the hell alone. But now I think I am coming out of my mood and ready to rejoin the world I guess Lol.
This week I have made pretty much been gettiing ready for room makeovers and binge watched the The Wire, Sopranos, and Different World.

So do whatever you need to do to relax your way and let everyone else and everything fall on deaf ears until you are ready to do, there is no harm in doing so.

Today’s affirmations: 

I am strong, empowered and capable of anything.

I am free from expectations and criticism.

I am worthy of abundance.


Family Competition 

I have been dealing with this for so long until it has literally worn me out. The funny thing is I never thought of myself in competition with anyone in my family so when people outside of the family see or hear things they instantly say seems like you are in a rivalry and to be honest I knew it but have always tried to overlook things.

I often would think it was just some being themselves but after I have really sat back and thought about all the nice nasty jabs that would be thrown my way at times, I would just laugh it off and keep moving because again I never thought of being in competition with family. 

I can no longer have anything to do with this negativity from anyone and I have been told for so long it is family you just have to deal. This wrong to tell anyone to keep dealing with disrespect even if it is family. I no longer have the energy to coddle grown adults and allow anyone to speak to me any kind of way because I don’t allow disrespect at all from a non family member. Yes I know feelings will be hurt or I will be considered “acting funny”, there is nothing wrong with not wanting to be disrespected by family and this should be taught early,  family is about love, honor and respect but if you are not getting any of that but only get it when someone may need something from you, you are well within your right to excuse yourself from the negative energy and love people from a distance.  

Friendly Reminder For This Week

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Look into the mirror, at least once a day, say, I Love you I really do! 

Remember the things that give you joy incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh.

Self love daily affirmations:

I feel completely comfortable with myself and accept myself with love, respect and appreciation.

I accept myself unconditionally.

The only approval I’ll ever need is mine. 

I radiate love, peace and happiness.

What I give is what I receive.

I am a work of art, cherished and admired.

I accept others as they are and they in turn accept me as I am.

I deserve all that is good.

I’m a diamond already. It’s time to shine!

I radiate confidence, self-respect and inner harmony.

I am fierce.

I am balanced.

I honor my inner voice.

I am abundant.

I choose to be grateful for all that I have.

I am powerful beyond my wildest dreams.

My voice is valuable will be heard

Self-love comes to me with ease.

My relationship with my body is one of perfect harmony.

I trust my body’s natural wisdom.

I feel at peace with my appearance.

I see my struggles as opportunities to grow and learn.

Nothing stands in the way of my self love. 

Self Care Awareness 

When stress increases, self-care decreases. 

Adding self-care strategies into your life can make a serious impact on your life.

Self Care Ideas:

Plan a comedy night, with the internet or at a club

Drink your coffee with your whole attention.

Say 3 affirmations before you walk into a tough meeting.

Create a grab bag of healthy snacks for your car.

Experiment with eating 3 foods in different ways: 

Cut the hamburger in quarters, eat the ice cream sitting on the fit ball, put the spoon down between bites 

Put your feet in a bath of epsom salt as you watch your favorite TV show.

Reconnect with an old friend.

Engage an old passion, like painting, playing piano or dancing.

Find ways to incorporate fish into your diet more often.

Walk during your lunch 

Eat predictably and regularly.

Practice deep breathing.

Go somewhere beautiful outdoors, sit in the sunshine and get your Vitamin D.

Listen to soothing music instead of having the TV on.

Practice gentle stretching to release tight muscles.

Write a gratitude list.

Paint your nails or get a manicure.

Try making batch of your favorite cookies or some of your go-to foods you enjoy making.

Schedule one silent, mindful meal at home each week.

Do a crossword puzzle or read (brain health).

Cut veggies up and have them in the fridge so you have easy and quick access.

Write a bucket list.

Plan your next vacation.

Download and listen to a podcast for your commute.

Have conversations with your loved ones about how they can best support you.

Spend time with the energy makers in your life and less time with the energy takers.

Find a fulfilling breakfast that makes you feel great.

Reach out and hug someone Celebrate your small successes!

Pick three of these ideas and see if they make a difference, then add more as you go.

Self Care Saturday

So I have been in self care mode since I left work yesterday, last night I took my hair down and did my steps I need for my hair care while watching Shrek.

My week has been somewhat stressful with clients & deadlines that I knew by Wednesday what my weekend would be like self care and

My self care today was treating myself to spa, picking up a few books, and back home to Netflix it for a while. Each day as women we deal with so much in this world on daily basis that yes we do need to check out and just be carefree with no worries, and that is exactly what I have been doing today, swiping away of course swiping on a budget, lol.

My evening plans for the rest of the evening meditation, work on bbq sauce recipe I came across, wine and start reading.

The books I picked up today:

*Fuchsia by Mahtem Shiferraw

*Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi

*Here Comes the Sun by Nicole Dennis-Benn

It is a must to have self care day or even a week if needed. You can’t move forward, or attempt to help others if you are on E mentally and physically.